Hello... my wife and I have made up our mind to get the BY Sterling Sectional and are now faced with choosing the leather. We could use some help!

It is really important to me to have a leather with a soft hand. I want the couch to have that loose draped leather, lived in look (and feel), where we can curl up and watch a movie or read a book (kinda like this). Almost all the pictures I see here of factory new sofas have very taught cushions, which is what we don't want. What contributes to that taught vs. that lived in look? Is it a product of leather choice or sofa choice or neither?

In terms of colors, we tend to gravitate toward the 85, 87, 88 colors... medium to dark browns with some hints of red.

Lastly, this will be a daily family couch for me, my wife, dog (maybe), kids (someday), and guests.

Based on all this, do you have any recommendations in the current BY leather manifest? We'd like to stay in Grade 5, but are willing to splurge on Grade 6 for the right leather.